What does resilience really mean, and how can you become resilient in the face of adversity?
In this episode, coach Travis Ramsey shares lessons he learned through Special Forces training – including why people fail at being resilient, how to become a master of something, and how to become deeply rooted and live your life so that the outcome doesn’t matter.
Listening to this episode will change the way you look at life!
- Travis asks participants to share their thoughts on how their latest weeks have been, what they’re moving toward, and what could develop more resilience for.
- An attendee from Wyoming opens up about the challenges of dealing with a cold winter – and the repercussions on her mood, while another discusses her desire to focus exclusively on the present.
- According to Travis, some of the challenges with resilience aren’t necessarily caused by the present, but rather by the projection of the future we create.
- “A deeply rooted tree isn’t bothered by the storm” is a powerful quote by Marcus Aurelius, which puts emphasis on the power you have over your mind and not on “external factors.”
- The idea is that you can have sunshine in your mind or inside your surroundings regardless of what the weather is outside.
- When thinking about resilience, “mentally tough” and being able to deal with things that are thrown your way are things that often come to mind.
- Resilience can also be understood as being okay when things aren’t really ok.
- Overcoming challenges and being able to bounce back are some of the other concepts that tend to be associated with the term resilience.
- Years ago, Travis went through the selection program for the Army Special Forces and Green Berets – of the 200+ people who started, only 26 remained until the end.
- Fascinated by what made this diverse group of people succeed, Travis dove into researching their common traits and unique characteristics.
- “Be here now” is a key principle to keep in mind because the present is rarely so unbearable that you can’t go on.
- Think about it. It’s winter and it’s cold. How would you feel about the idea of coping with two more months of that weather? And how would you feel if you knew that the nicer weather would start tomorrow?
- The key is to be really focused on the present and move forward one step at a time.
- If you think about it, our suffering is rarely about now. Usually thoughts of the future or past – and not of the present – are what negatively affect us.
- Everyone loves the idea of being a winner, but what happens when you fail?
- Travis explains that there’s a difference between pride and joy.
- Being joyful means enjoying the fact that you won and realizing that while losing isn’t fun, it doesn’t say anything deep about you.
- You have 15W of energy in your brain. When you’re facing a really difficult task you want all 15W centered on that task (and not have 2-3W worrying about what the potential outcome is going to be).
- How to stay present means how to have all of your energy focused on a specific thing at the same time.
- Travis shares a deep question everyone should ask themselves: “How can I live my life in such a way that the outcome of it doesn’t matter?”
- The key in finding a resilience that’s so deeply rooted that it doesn’t matter the criticism or suffering you’re facing.
- “You have power over your mind, not outside events… realize this and you’ll find strength,” says Travis.
- According to Travis, most of us spend our lives running from something.
- Think about the difference between the exhausting run looking over your shoulder all the time versus the beautiful feeling of running towards something you’re so excited about.
- Discipline over motivation – a lot of things we choose to use discipline on are things we don’t actually want.
- The more we live in our place of natural talents, the less discipline is needed.
- If you’d like to live a full life, you should orient your life towards running towards the life that you want, instead of running from the life you’re afraid of.
- Do that and you’ll use less energy and will need less discipline.
- The first thing to do when your brain goes crazy and you get stuck in this “I can’t do anything” mode is to take a step back and change your perspective.
- Travis sees learning to navigate in the wilderness as one of the most challenging things.
- Remember: it’s not about perfection. It’s about bringing in some core things to your life that serve as guideposts for the person you’d like to be, and the life you’d want to live.
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Marcus Aurelius
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